Updated: May 24, 2024

A Story of Birth Trauma and the Path to Healing

In the quiet corner of a cozy cafe, Sarah sat across from me, her eyes filled with a mixture of vulnerability and determination. As she sipped her coffee, she began to share her story, one that echoed the experiences of many mothers dealing with the aftermath of birth trauma.

Sarah's journey into motherhood had been fraught with unexpected challenges. What was supposed to be a joyous occasion turned into a harrowing ordeal, leaving her with deep emotional scars. It wasn't until years later that she sought birth trauma therapy or counselling, embarking on a path toward healing and restoration.

Signs That You Need Trauma Therapy

Sarah's story shed light on the often overlooked signs that indicate the need for birth trauma therapy or counselling.

For many mothers, the emotional toll of a traumatic birth experience can manifest in various ways:

1. Flashbacks and nightmares: Vivid memories of the traumatic event may intrude on your daily life, causing distress and anxiety.

2. Avoidance behaviours: Some mothers may go to great lengths to avoid reminders of the traumatic birth, such as avoiding discussions about childbirth or steering clear of hospitals.

3. Mood disturbances: Feelings of sadness, anger, shame or guilt may linger long after the birth, impacting overall mood and well-being.

4. Relationship strain: Birth trauma can strain relationships with partners, family members, and friends, leading to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

5. Physical symptoms: In addition to emotional distress, some mothers may experience physical symptoms such as insomnia, headaches, or gastrointestinal issues.

Treatment Options

There are several treatment options if your birthing trauma is impacting the quality of your life. It’s important to remember that everyone’s mental health situation is unique and may require 1 or more of the following. You can also book an appointment with your family physician to discuss your symptoms.

1. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT):

   • CBT involves talking to a therapist to identify and challenge negative thoughts and behaviours related to the birth trauma.

   • It helps new moms develop coping strategies and tools to manage anxiety, depression, or PTSD symptoms.

   • CBT can be conducted individually or in a group setting and is often considered a first-line treatment for postpartum mental health concerns.

   • Learn more about our CBT for trauma options at the clinic, and CPT vs PE (2 specialized forms of treatment for dealing with the aftermath of trauma).

2. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR):

   • EMDR is a psychotherapy technique specifically designed to alleviate the distress associated with traumatic memories.

   • It involves recalling distressing images while the therapist directs the patient in rapid, rhythmic eye movements (or other forms of bilateral stimulation).

   • EMDR aims to process these memories, reducing their impact and helping the individual to integrate them more adaptively.

   • Learn more about EMDR, the benefits of EMDR, and a blog post outlining the differences between EMDR and CBT.

3. Medication:

   • Antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications may be prescribed to help alleviate symptoms of depression, anxiety, or PTSD.

   • Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs) are commonly used medications that are considered safe during breastfeeding.

   • Medication is often used in conjunction with therapy for more comprehensive treatment.

4. Couples or Family Therapy:

   • Birth trauma can strain relationships with partners, family members, and friends.

   • Couples or family therapy provides a space for open communication, understanding, and healing within relationships.

   • Involving partners and family members in therapy can foster empathy, strengthen support networks, and improve overall family functioning.

5. Self-Care and Lifestyle Changes:

   • Encouraging new moms to prioritize self-care activities such as adequate sleep, healthy nutrition, exercise, and relaxation techniques.

   • Setting boundaries, delegating tasks, and asking for help from loved ones can alleviate stress and prevent burnout.

   • Engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment can promote overall well-being and resilience in the face of trauma.

Tips for Dealing with Birthing Trauma

Navigating the complexities of birth trauma requires patience, self-compassion, and support. Here are some tips to help mothers cope with their experiences:

1. Seek professional help: Don't hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counsellor specializing in birth trauma. Professional support can provide valuable insights and coping strategies.

2. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care activities that promote relaxation and emotional well-being, such as mindfulness meditation, gentle exercise, or creative expression.

3. Connect with others: Joining support groups or online communities for mothers who have experienced birth trauma can offer validation, empathy, and solidarity. When I had young ones at home, my local Early Years helped me to connect with other new mothers! Find a local Early Years Centre in Ontario.

4. Communicate openly: Share your feelings and experiences with trusted loved ones, whether it's a partner, friend (especially other new moms), or family member. Open communication can foster understanding and emotional connection.

5. Set boundaries: Establish boundaries to protect your emotional health and well-being. It's okay to decline invitations or requests that feel overwhelming or triggering.

Where to Get Trauma Help

For mothers seeking support and guidance on their journey towards healing, there are various resources available:

1. Birth Trauma Association (BTA): The BTA offers information, resources, and support for mothers affected by birth trauma. Their website provides access to articles, forums, and helplines for additional assistance.

2. Postpartum Support International (PSI): PSI offers a range of resources for mothers struggling with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, including birth trauma. Their website features a directory of perinatal mental health professionals and support groups.

3. Books on Birth Trauma: There are several books written by experts in the field of birth trauma that offer insights, validation, and practical advice. Some recommended titles include "Healing from Birth Trauma: A Journey Through the Hearts of Mothers and Health Professionals" by Reiki Payne and "Traumatic Childbirth" by Cheryl Tatano Beck.

Get Help for a Birth Trauma Today

Sarah's journey serves as an important reminder of the resilience inherent in the human spirit. While the road to healing may be fraught with challenges, it is also marked by moments of courage, strength, and transformation. By seeking support, practicing self-care, and embracing vulnerability, mothers can embark on a journey of healing and reclaim their sense of empowerment in the aftermath of birth trauma.

At Virtual CBT Psychotherapy, we have a variety of therapists who specialize in trauma. Learn more about our trauma treatment and therapists. Book a free consultation today by clicking the tab below and we will match you with a therapist based on your symptoms and goals for therapy.